Excuse me... You have something in your eye

I just love how people are so quick to place blame and point fingers as if their closet only contains clothes and shoes.

There is a man somewhere in this world who hates men who beat on women, but he rapes little boys.

There is a woman somewhere who would never cheat on her husband with a man, but will eat the hell out some p****

There is a pastor who pays his tithes and offering faithfully but doesn’t pay his child support.

There is a doctor that’s a serial killer. There is a breast cancer survivor deliberately giving people AIDS.

We all have things that we are passionate about and probably would never ever do in our lifetime, but let’s not forget about that things that we have done or what we ARE doing that others may frown upon.

“How can you get the splinter out my eye, when you have a log in yours?”….

Busting Windows eh?

I’m starting to almost understand why women go around and slash men tires and bust out windows (I WOULD NEVER DO THAT….. TOO SCARED). I see firsthand the EMOTIONAL ROLLERCOASTER some women are placed on.  It’s not right and a lot of times men have these women hearts and minds on a string playing with them like puppets. A lot of times I don’t see stupidity when I look at these women faces and hear their stories. I see hurt and love intertwined into one (Deadly Combination). I went through it, so I know it’s not easy. But it takes a STRONG WOMAN to let go and move on. It takes a STRONG WOMAN to say, I can’t take it anymore. It takes a STRONG WOMAN to realize that although her love for him may never subside, she has to do what’s best for her. Ladies don’t slash his tires, slash his heart. Walk away, Let Go, Move on and Live life. This world is a beautiful place filled with beautiful people. You’re bound to find the one meant for you in due time. #DONTBENOONESFOOL

GM

Communication is the Best Policy

There is a great lack of communication between man and woman today. It seems as if a lot of individuals want some sort of mind reader. This goes deeper than a relationship level, but a friendship level. How can you expect for someone  to be an effective friend if you don’t communicate with them? How can they know what you are going through or how they can help you if you don’t communicate with them? Then there are the individuals that get mad when you ask them too many questions. How are we to build a strong solid friendship if certain parts of your life are omitted because you don’t want to let people in your world? You would much rather go online and vent or put up a front for hundreds of people, half who may not even know or even care who you are, instead of picking up the phone and calling the one’s closest to you. You send people on wild goose chases and get mad when they don’t understand where you are coming from. In order to have a solid relationship you have to build a strong friendship, and in order to do that you have to have a strong source of communication between the two of you. If you meet an individual that you are interested in why not let them in your world. I’m sure it’s not as complicated as you may think it is, and guess what... WE ALL HAVE ISSUES. We have become too lazy and everyone wants things done their way and no one is willing to compromise or sacrifice. A lot of us have allowed social media/networking to operate our lives for us. Some of us wouldn’t know what to do with ourselves without it. Good conversation isn’t dead ok? Try it sometimes. If you have an individual who is willing to be there for you, or even cares about how your day was, or how your family is doing... Tell them. Why be secretive. Just talk! Some people make themselves socially awkward when they don’t have to be, just because they think it’s the best policy. Stop letting of lot of this bad advice change your logical way of thinking.

GM

Grown ass kids

I promise I can’t make this stuff up. Please hear me out tho…

One day I was walking home from school with a childhood neighbor and somehow we got on the topic about sex. ***Clears throat and takes hard slow swallow….. Ummm… See I was in the 3rd grade and she was in the 5th. ***exhales. Anyway! My neighbor said “See me, I hunch, my sista, she hunch and fuck, my momma, well my momma straight fuck”…………….. O_o (only in the 90’s right?)

The sad thing about this story is (and I still can’t remember how this memory came back to mind) I actually felt… ahhh… let’s see…. Inadequate? Sad aint it. An 8 yr old feeling as if she has failed to reach an expected or required level for a child her age. (except for that one time).

When I have kids Imma keep them locked in a box.

STFU sometimes Kia............ DAMN!

I have noticed that everyone doesn’t want you to go against their words. Whether they be pure emotions, testimonies or by the book facts. Everyone is not going to see things from your perspective and everyone is not going to welcome your perspective. For the most part if I see a post that I don’t agree with… I don’t say anything, but if it’s someone that I either know through association or somewhat care about… I sometimes can’t help but speak my peace. I mean I welcome all non-negative feedback even if it goes against what I believe at that time, because I know a person can always learning something new. But this is Facebook, and a lot of people take it serious and I don’t want to be the one that throws a monkey wrench in the mix. So from this point on if I don’t agree with a status…. I will never say a damn thang… lol… I still welcome healthy debates on mine tho!

SN: Be on the lookout for “Going with the Flow” the Kia Flow Show

I'm so Basic

So if I chose to wear flat backless flip/flop sandals to the club/bar/lounge/restaurant does that mean I’m rachet, or don’t care about my appearance? What clubs/bars/lounges/restaurants are flat backless flip/flop sandals appropriate? Should some women have shoe guidelines like men do? Let’s take it one step further. What if there were guidelines to what shoes a woman can wear to a certain club in order to be granted access (like they do for the men.) I’m not being funny I guess I just wanna know so I can be like “Everyone” else ya know. I mean if it’s not a good look for me to wear a shoe like that even if it matches my ensemble, and my feet had been killing me all day and I just wanted to be comfortable and enjoy a good show amongst friends……….. Just let me know so I can change……....... and be like EVERYONE ELSE. (Sigh….. Sounds very boring, but what the hell… This is what I need to do to be accepted…….. Right?)

Big Red was a bad ass!

Just for anyone who wants to know, my uncle was Big Red! He had certain methods of conducting business that I was not too fond of but one method that he was firm about always stuck with me. His office hours and they were strictly from 9 – 5. Now what I need people to understand is my office hours are the same but they fluctuate depending on money and opportunity. Money talks and bull s*** gets hung off the balcony.

"I'm not a bitch, I'm just unreceptive to things I don't understand."

This is what I texted a guy today. For every day he sends something nice to my phone. Something like mere well wishes. Something I rarely get from guys that claim to be into me and want to see where it goes. This guy, not really my cup of tea in the looks category, but one who possesses intellect that would over shadow any dimple in the cheek or flex of a bicep any day. We met under some not so “open to talk about circumstances” but have never been intimate in any sort, but he admires me. I can tell. I can tell by the way he uses correct capitalization and punctuation when texting me each day. He puts thought into his words. Never coming off dominant or abrasive, I know he falls in the dirt every time I reply with a one worded answer. He is determined. I can tell because each day he still sends me well wishes. This lets me know he picks himself back up and brushes the dirt off. I think that he really “Hopes I have a good day” or he really wants me to have a “Good Morning.” I have started to take notice. There was once a time when I would have a look of complete disgust on my face when he texted me each morning. That look has now been replaced with a slight smile and an extra word in my reply. He knows he’s getting to me. It was his plan. He shows signs of a man we rarely see these days. A man that goes for what he wants. Even if he is never successful at obtaining that rare jewel (me), he knows that he gave it his all. But on the flip side he may not be in search of anything. Just a man who’s interest has been sparked by a woman he is intrigued by and wants to keep contact if for nothing more than a friendship via text. He has taught me something valuable and he may never know it. I am just glad that he didn’t call it quits a long time ago because "I'm not a bitch, I'm just unreceptive to things I don't understand."

This is me

Self-Confidence

As someone with high self-confidence, you feel quite comfortable interacting with other people. Indeed, you find the company of others very stimulating and enjoy meeting new people. Your relaxed demeanor in groups makes people around you comfortable too. Perhaps because you feel comfortable talking about yourself, others tend to enjoy being around you and perceive you as socially competent.

The confidence that helps you feel comfortable talking to people also spills into your own personal beliefs about yourself. Although you have several strengths, it’s likely that you also acknowledge and accept your weaknesses. But unlike some people, you take full responsibility for your actions—you rarely regret things you’ve done in the past and are not embarrassed easily.

Perhaps the defining feature that sets you apart from most people is the exceptionally high standards that you set for yourself. Your competence in social gatherings as well as at work should provide ample evidence for this. With these characteristics, it’s very likely that people come to you for advice and generally think of you as someone with leader-like qualities.

Greenville NC

Through the past few month I have begun to at least try and apply a basic instruction that was said to me over and over again as a child about “Thinking Before I Speak.” HA! “When does she ever do that?” you ask? Lol I do it from time to time and this time will be no exception. Sometimes you have to let go and let things fall into perspective on their own. Although I hate the business decisions made by some “business minded” individuals, I have to learn to go with the flow, learn from the mistakes made by others and make calculated decisions on dealing with those individuals again. All without putting my name in jeopardy.

I want to give a special THANK YOU to Michael Burnett. With the exception of Ill Clinton, this weekend was my first time actually being treated like AN ARTIST. I actually am not a hard to please individual but I was accommodated as an artist that is “booked” or “requested” is suppose to be. I actually saw this man hit the streets head first as soon as we touched down in Greenville.

This experience showed me that I NEED TO DO MORE OUT OF TOWN SHOWS. No disrespect to my home city because the love and support is there, but there are actually a lot of cities that know nothing about pure, live, grown folk entertainment. Oh and they show major love to “The new talent in town.” (cha-ching)

GM!

You make me sick

You got too many young (think they’re grown), or bad decision making people on Facebook giving bad advice. I have seen some of the STUPIDEST beliefs and ways of thinking posted on FB. When I further examine the people that post them, I think to myself, WHAT THE HELL MAKES YOU THINK YOU CAN PROVIDE ADVICE TO ANYONE. Just my thoughts. Various cries out for help are being guided by FB Philosophers. You got folk trying to prophesize on people’s lives and be DEAD ASS WRONG. Women and Men who can barely keep a spouse giving relationship advice. People telling you what a REAL WOMAN or REAL MAN is and half of them don’t live up the half the crap they post about.

I am sooo serious when I say yal need to cut this mess out! Yeah I’m goofy, vulgar and unscripted, but if I don’t know it to be true, I’m not really going to speak on it unless it’s all in fun and laughs. Bout time to start cleaning my friends list and begin getting more realistic people on my TL. I like Facebook because I feel it’s a good way of socializing, but some folk are just…………….. UHG!!! JMT!

Dnt wear it if you can't take it

I can understand and completely agree with a woman getting mad if a man touches her without permission, but you shouldn’t get mad if he is gawking at your physical attributes that you decided to show off. That I don’t understand. For whatever reason you wore it, you had to have thought about the possible feedback you would get so don’t get mad if it’s not the feedback you want. That’s life. You put on your attire knowing that everyone does not have tact or respect and that you would run the risk of some negative attention. Be grown and think before you put something on. If you can’t handle various signs of attention you may wanna look in your closet and find something diff to wear. And this is coming from a woman who shows her cleavage at least 4 times a week. I do it because I like it and I don’t care what others may say just as long as you don’t touch me. IJS.